New motherhood is basically a combination of crying… because you are sad… because you are happy… because it’s is really hard… because for no reason at all. You will cry and it is okay. This is new for you and you are learning just as baby is. With all this being said there are definitely a few things that will help make your transition into motherhood a little smoother and more comfortable. Here are a few topics we gathered.
- It is OK if you don’t bond with your baby right away.
During your first pregnancy, it is common to think about the day your baby will come. Often times women envision this experience being magical, one they will never forget. The heavens will open and sing to you and your new little family and there will be an over whelming feeling of love from there on out. Yes, this does happen, but more often than not this is not the experience every new mother has.
Of course, you are going to love you baby. However, sometimes those feelings don’t come right away and that is normal. A baby is a person and just like any other relationship, it takes time to get to know one another and build trust. Don’t feel bad if you need to take the time to adjust and these feelings come later. You are doing everything perfect and there is nothing wrong with you.
- Breastfeeding will be hard work.
You would think that breast feeding is the most natural occurring thing in the world. Only makes sense, right? Wrong. Although is it a natural thing we do, it doesn’t always come natural to new mothers.
Breastfeeding might be a walk in the park for some moms. But for others, it can be a hike up Mount Everest. Spend your time reading up on the topic. Get comfortable with the idea it is going to take some work. Even take a class if you need to. You won’t know what you need until you start, but be prepared mentally so you can expect anything. Remember, if you really struggle with it, you are doing the best you can. Keep your stress levels low and don’t be too hard on yourself.
- You will feel like you are never going to sleep again, but you will. We promise.
This is something you hear all the time. Even if you aren’t pregnant you just know that babies wake up in the night. A lot. Having a baby isn’t like pulling an all-nighter for studying or going out with friends. You can’t just catch up on sleep the next day.
This means that you will be tired and that is going to make all your other tasks seem even harder. You might feel like you won’t be able to keep going at this rate and the truth is, you can’t. So remember it’s only temporary. You will live. You will survive. You can do this.
- Don’t do it all by yourself.
When someone extends a hand. Take it. The idea of motherhood going smoothly, easy and everything is perfect is a fairytale. Don’t waste your time learning this and just accept help when it’s offered right away. People who offer, want to help you. They want to be a part of this new life you’ve created so let them… by washing dishes, folding laundry or just sitting with baby so you can take a nap.
- Yes, your mother instincts are real so trust them.
When you are a mother for the first time, is it normal to be googling everything and questioning yourself. You will find yourself asking people you don’t even really know for any kind of advice that will make this new parent gig easier for you. The truth is you will already know the answer.
Trust yourself. You and your baby will be okay. And, if you feel like something isn’t right. Trust yourself and go to the doctors. Just remember to listen to yourself because there is so much advice out there it can get confusing and you will find yourself starting to overanalyze everything. No one knows your bay like you, so follow those instincts.
Overall what you need to know coming into motherhood is you will be okay. Not only will you be okay, but you will be fabulous. Everything will seem crazy, and it is. But remember the most important thing is to keep your stress levels low and to the best you can. If you can do that then you are doing everything you can possibly do and your baby will be alright.